5 Ways to Practice Self-Love

Posted on 3rd February, 2020

by Shawna

Valentine's Day always seems to heavily focus on relationships and couples. Cupid and her love bow shoot into the air to capture the soulmate you've been longing for. It doesn't work that way, does it? It's possible your love story is quite different than the vision Valentine's Day portrays. If you are single by no choice of your own this day might feel like a heavy burden. Single people's self-esteem is tested every year on Valentine's Day as the thought of "who can I love?" or "who will love me?" rolls about in their minds.

What We Really Need to Focus on Is Loving Ourselves. But How?

A dear friend of mine recently grew her natural grey hair out and never plans to color or cover-up anything about herself again! She shared how cathartic it has been for her. Embracing her full authentic beautiful self and not needing to hide or alter anything at all has freed her up. She has experienced liberating feelings, released shame, the need to measure up.

Often we try to fight ageing, but what if we just flow with it instead of going against it? The answer to that is, it depends on each person. My story of self-love is loving who I am even if I cover my naturally grey hair. The truth is I've always had thin hair my entire life. I yearned for thick beautiful hair, but Spirit told me to love myself fully no matter what my hair looked like. When I learned about hair extensions it was a game-changer. I immediately tried it and loved it.

"Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder." No matter if you let the true you shine through or you take advantage of modern-day beauty tricks - it's okay. The most important aspect is that you learn to love yourself fully. What is too much or too little is all up to what makes you feel your best. Start loving yourself for who you are and the outside imagery will follow.

"Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option." - Maya Angelou

The best relationship to invest time in is yourself. There is no other person in this world like you, that's how special you are. Practicing self-love is a practice. It takes time to develop and for it to become a routine or habit.

Here Are the 5 Ways to Begin Practicing Self-love

  • Embrace the truth of starting a loving relationship with yourself.
  • Love yourself enough to end all toxic relationships for good, including any sabotaging talk, you allow from your inner critic.
  • Choose exercises and hobbies that light you up.
  • Do what makes you happy even if it costs money! Go to the salon every 6 weeks!
  • Forgive yourself. Write down all the memories of regret. Light the paper on fire and let it go.

The most powerful and impactful thing for my life has been meditation. When I feel connected to Source, I am at peace. Practicing being closer to Spirit brings me closer to who I am. I've been in times of deep transition and the one practice that kept me going was meditation. When the monkey mind quiets down I am at peace throughout my mind, body, and spirit.

I encourage you this Valentine's Day to not seek love from another or even from your spouse, but to practice the relationship with YOU. You are incredible.