Resilience…the Way Back From Loss

Posted on 14th October, 2021

by Shawna

In this blog post, we will talk about the loss and grief that has been an inevitable part of our lives during this pandemic and how resilience can help us work through all of it, to get to the other side.

What makes us strong? What can help us cope with tragic situations? During reading sessions, my clients often ask me what enables some people to deal with a crisis and even become stronger during the process, while others collapse in similar situations? Stress and anxiety have a tremendous impact on our lives. We can't always control what comes from outside, but it is up to us to learn how to deal with difficulties. In the past few years, we have heard a lot about resilience and the benefits of resilient behavior, but what exactly means this term? It derives from the Latin words "re", meaning backward, and "salre", meaning to jump, and in this case, it refers to find the balance being flexible instead of breaking being overwhelmed by negative emotions. Resilience is not an innate ability, but it can be developed.

It is the ability to adapt to challenging and threatening situations, it helps to reduce the impact of external stress factors. It is a characteristic of people who have adaptive behavior and are able to maintain a state of emotional and mental balance no matter what challenges their lives bring. We can't avoid a tragic situation, like the loss of a loved one, at some point, we all have to face problems in our lives, but we can learn some coping mechanisms. A resilient attitude helps us cope with grief without long-term damage. It has an essential role in the healing process: the more resilient we are, the faster we recover after a tragedy.

People who developed resilience have a few common characteristics. Resilient people:

  • are actively seeking solutions for their problems
  • are aware of their inner resources and abilities
  • know how to use their inner strength
  • ask for help when they need
  • are proactive
  • take responsibility for their feelings, thoughts, and actions

My dear, if you lost someone you love, and you don't know how to deal with your loss, take the first step towards healing and ask for help. There are efficient coping skills you can learn to ease the process and help you access your inner resources. How can you develop resilience? By awakening self-awareness and adopting personal coping strategies. If you would like to be more resilient, but don't know where to start, please allow me to help you.