Posted on 10th November, 2020
The times we currently face are definitely unlike anything we've ever seen before. Adapting our lives to the new pandemic restrictions surely hasn't been easy. It's obviously harder for single people to find someone and couples are also facing new struggles.
The hard and stressful times we go through may not always bring out the best of us and the fact that we now spend most of our time home with our loved one means that they are most likely to experience, hands on, the parts of us we're not so proud of.
I am writing this article in the hopes that it'll help you overcome your struggles easier and have a better understanding between each other. There are some common struggles that I see in almost every couple that comes to me for guidance, I've made a list of the ones I encountered most frequently:
Financial related problems are probably the most common struggles couples face these days. There are so many people that have lost their jobs and are now feeling lost. Going through something like this can be very stressful and since our other one is home with us, most of the time, they are usually the ones we blow off to when everything gets too much.
Affirmations are very powerful and can help us so much during stressful times. Some affirmations that can help you in this situation:
Try saying these at least each morning when you wake up and each night before you go to sleep and see what an impact they can have.
Spending some alone time is something normal. It's nice to spend time together but that doesn't mean that something has to be wrong with your relationship if you crave some alone time every once in a while.
What can you do to spend some alone time even in the comfort of your home?
. Try painting, drawing or learning a certain dance, anything that might've sparked your interest before and never got the time to get to it. Talk to your partner and tell him you need a few hours just for yourself for this and choose a room in the house where you will not be bothered
At least once a week, prep for an evening dedicated solely to you. Take a long bath and maybe add some natural relaxing bath salts and some scented therapeutic candles for a deeper sense of relaxation.
Reading can be very relaxing and interesting at the same time. It can also be a means to disconnect from any troubles and recharge your batteries after a stressful day.
You can embark on a 30-day yoga journey or exercises challenge. Find a room where you will not be disturbed and ask your loved one for some uninterrupted alone time so you can make the most out of the routine.
Feeling bored is something quite common these days, with all the pandemic social restrictions. Since we are now spending a lot more time home and not doing anything out of the ordinary it's easy to run out of topics to talk about and things to do and for boredom to set in in your relationship.
Things you can do to re-spark the flame:
. Find something you both like and start learning together. This can be a lot of fun and you can also get to know each other a lot better and build a stronger connection.
The one place that is still open to everyone and is free of restrictions is nature. Take your car or even your bikes and go on a trip to the nearest spot in nature. You can hike, walk, run, or just enjoy the fresh air without a mask and admire nature's beauty. A day in nature will surely leave you feeling calmer and more relaxed thus improving your relationship's dynamics.
Turn off your phones and the television and just focus on each other. Plan a relaxing day, cook a nice dinner together and maybe end the night with a relaxing massage. By solely focusing your attention on your partner you may even learn new things or remind yourself why you fell in love in the first place.
If you are in need of any further relationship advice I invite you to take a look at my book on "How to Improve any Relationship" where you will find some truly useful tips.